Foolproof Date-Getting Technique
I was just recently reminded of an almost foolproof technique my buddy and I came up with to ask girls out. You see, the date itself was easy, it was the getting the date that was always painful. I mean, if you see an attractive young lady in your classroom or on campus somewhere that you’d like to go out with, how do you approach her (without being a freak)? Well, Joe and I had the answer: give her your number.
I know, it sounds ridiculous but just follow me.
So you write your name and phone number on a piece of paper, nothing more. Then when the timing is convenient, just walk right up to her, tell her you think she looks nice and you’d be interested in taking her out sometime. Hand her the paper and tell her that if she’d like to go out she can call you whenever she’d like and you’ll take her out. Smile and walk away (unless she wants to say something in return, if so even better).
This is brilliant for a few reasons.
1) It’s a guaranteed date for the girl. If Friday is rolling around and she doesn’t want to be at home she’s got a ‘Get Out of Jail Free’ card. Cash it in and she’s golden.
2) No awkward phone games. I H-A-T-E-D when I’d get a girl’s number, called it, a roommate answers and says she’s not there, call back later, not there. So is she avoiding me or is she really not there? Am I a stalker if I call a third time? Ugh, total nightmare!
3) Ball in her court now. I’ve made a move, now it’s her turn.
4) It’s easy for her to not accept. Girls are often in uncomfortable situations where guys ask them out and they have to awkwardly turn them down and give lame excuses. This is the easiest ‘excuse’, don’t call.
5) Any call means there is at least a spark of interest. That information is important.
6) No cheesy or painful pick-up lines.
I actually tried this twice. The first time it worked perfectly. She called, we went out, went out again, we made out, but it didn’t really work out. The second time it didn’t work because (I later found out) she was engaged at the time (but I’m SURE she would have called me…)
Of course I didn’t use it to get my wife, she was my mission companion’s sister. That’s an even easier introduction.
Posted on July 12, 2006, in Pop Culture. Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.
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I had a friend in high school who did that. A boy she saw at the library. I don’t remember if he ever called her–but I think he did. I don’t think they ever went out, though.
This would have been of no help to me in my single years. I needed a way to get a date that didn’t involve terrifying encounters with girls. While this method does give the girl an easy out and, therefore, decreases the chances of facing an out’n-out rejection, it still requires a face-to-face encounter during which the girl will scrutinize and judge you and probably come to the conclusion that you’re a disgusting stalker. At least that’s what the single me would have thought. I have since convinced myself that many girls actually want to be asked out and actually appreciate attention from boys, even if they are a bit goofy-looking. So this might just be good technique. Maybe I’ll remember this for when my boys need help.
I’m so glad I’m done with that stuff.
I’m so glad I’m done with that stuff.
Amen.
I’ll second that Amen.
Tom, if your sons need advice, tell them to ask out girls they already know. I kind of think getting phone numbers from complete strangers feels more stalker-ish than most other face-to-face encounters. Although it does, as Rusty points out, give the girl a little more control. But then even if she thinks phone-number-guy is cute or interesting, there’s still the problem of him being a total stranger and possibly psychotic.
And yeah, I’m also glad that stuff is long over for me.
I’m sure my sons won’t need advice. They’re super studly already (they’re 4 and 3).
Asking girls I already knew was my strategy. The problem was that I was scared of girls so I didn’t know very many and I had to really know a girl before I dared ask her out. So my dating was, shall we say, sparse. It’s a miracle I ever got married, really.
Of course, if she’s a Rules girl or been reading He’s just not that into you she won’t call you.
Could you ask her out to coffee as easily as you give her your phone number?
…coffee being hot chocolate or soda in this context, of course. I used to get asked out to coffee in my single days, there’s always other things to drink there and it’s not in a bar.